Live from Los Angeles, Tonight’s Conversation: Live & Uncut breaks open one of the most frustrating dating patterns women face:
Why do independent, successful women keep attracting men who want to be taken care of?

The night explodes when an audience member admits she attracts men who need nurturing, rescuing, and emotional babysitting. The panel doesn’t hold back:
men can sense a woman with mothering energy from a mile away — and the wrong ones run straight toward it.

From men who want comfort instead of accountability, to men who hide behind charm while expecting women to carry the emotional load, LA unpacks the quiet truth:
if you are too strong, too soft, too giving, or too available, you might be dating grown boys instead of grown men.

The energy shifts when Miss Pat steps up with one of the wildest church stories of the tour — a pastor blurring boundaries, whispering in her ear, stripping her roles, and testing her spiritually and emotionally. The panel dives deep into spiritual manipulation, unsafe leadership, and why discernment matters as much in the church as it does in relationships.

Then the DL dating story hits, the private investigator moment sends the room into chaos, and Mike drops the now-iconic mantra:
OSTD — Other Sh*t To Do.

Funny, raw, convicting, and painfully relatable — LA delivered one of the most honest conversations about why some women attract the wrong men… and how to finally break the cycle.

TIMESTAMPS
00:00 LA House Rules + Inclusivity
00:45 “Why Do I Keep Attracting Men Who Want to Be Taken Care Of?”
02:00 Men Spot Boundary Issues Instantly
03:00 Independence vs. Emotional Availability
04:00 How Women Signal “I’ll Carry Everything”
05:00 Men Who Want Comfort, Not Commitment
06:00 Flame & Moth Energy — Who You Call In
07:00 Masculine/Feminine Energy Misalignment
08:30 Can You Respect a Man You Must Provide For?
10:00 Provision Isn’t Just Money — It’s Mindset
11:00 The Mothering Trap: Dating Men You Raise
12:30 Sympathy, Fixing & Overfunctioning
13:30 When He Wants a Mama, Not a Woman
14:30 The Allowance Argument — Ego vs. Partnership
16:00 Why Independent Women Attract Dependent Men
17:00 Communication vs. Weaponized Emotion
18:00 Miss Pat’s Pastor Story Begins
19:00 Whispering, Boundary Crossing & Spiritual Abuse
20:00 Leadership Collapse — Losing 340 Members
21:00 The “Pastor Walker” Moment
22:30 Why She Must Leave That Church
23:30 Is She Wrong for Not Telling the First Lady?
24:30 Accountability in Faith Spaces
25:30 The DL Dating Story Begins
26:30 Hiring a Private Investigator (!!)
27:30 Hot & Cold = The Only Answer You Need
28:30 Should Women Ask Sexuality Questions Early?
29:30 Why Women Ignore Red Flags They Already Recognize
30:30 Mike Introduces OSTD — “Other Sh*t To Do”
31:30 Crash-Out Behavior & Wasting Time on Men
33:00 Wanting Lions While Entertaining Flamingos
34:00 Final Message: Stop Mothering Men Who Need to Grow Up